www.CostaRicaTicas.com

I hope not you are a artist with your camera.

Bob, you have given great advice and I have already taken heed. I just wonder if the ticas will give me a discount because of my situation?

M. S.

I am available! When is your trip?

Styles, M.

Well Mikey,

I always assumed you were a single guy based on your posts. A few guys are married to very understanding women, but most would probably have a melt-down if they knew about CRT.

You never know with women. It seems like most of them are inclined to screw around, given the opportunity, even if you are the perfect husband.

As far as the woman, well, see how she is a year from now when that screaming baby is getting her up at night and there is no man in her life.

-PA

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-PA*

I hope I'm not out of line by posting here. However, I did vote on the poll and feel I should say something.

I've just read all the posts in this thread and the thread giving advice on how to cover things up. I've found that I went from having a great laugh (I read the other thread first) to feeling like I took the kick in the nuts as well.

I'm separated myself after 4 years of marriage and while I thank God that no K*ds were involved, IMNSHO when it's your spouse that tells you it's over, or takes action to cause the marriage to end, it's devastating.

I'm not sure I believe in Karma myself, but as a guy that's loved Mikey's reports and photos and making my first post-separation visit to CR in 5 days, I can say that I was proud that I kept my head held high while being castrated by my ex-wife. I'm further proud at the ability to reconstruct my life without her. I see her twice a month to hang out and I can tell it burns her that I landed on my feet so well, while she's still staying with various family members feeling sorry for herself. And just for added satisfaction, I let slip that I'll be bringing her back some Cafe Britt from my Costa Rica trip.

You're going to Costa Rica?

Yeah, didn't I tell you that? lol

Fight for your K*ds, and I can attest to the fact that you can/will land on your feet and that living well and adapting fast is the best medicine.

Again I hope I didn't annoy anyone with this post, cheers to all.

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many sheep, limited crow.....

I concur with the remarks quoted below. Depending upon which state you live in, it is a very large mistake to move out. The reason is that the other side will "charge" you with "...abandoning the abode....". Doesn't matter you did so because you found out she was doing her thing....Courts only look at the fact it is you who has left the house.

Relationships are just fancy business deals. Most deals never really work out over the long haul. Now, it's "war". It's not fun. It's messy. Dirty deeds done dirt quick....and all that. However, in the years to come, you'll look back and feel a whole lot better (because you will look back as you wax sentimental) knowing you took no prisoners. This current trend of lawyers working for a "win win" solution is Pure D B.S. The U.S. court system is adversarial; there is ALWAYS a WINNER and there is ALWAYS a LOSER. ALWAYS. No ifs, ands, or buts.

Get back into that house; get the best divorce attorney you can find and afford....and plan your attack. Remember....TAKE NO PRISONERS.

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"Actual happiness always looks pretty squalid in comparison with the over-compensations for misery. And, of course, stability isn't nearly so spectacular as instability. And being contented has none of the glamour of a good fight against misfortune, none of the picturesqueness of a struggle with temptation, or a fatal overthrow by passion or doubt. Happiness is never grand."
- Aldous Huxley, Brave New World, Ch. 16

Mikey has responded to the current situation. I might be helpful for all to read his comments prior to posting.

Berk....

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FRUITCAKE... and you thought it was something you eat! Not on CRT!

[quote="Mikey Styles

Duardo, yesterday I consulted an attorney here in Georgia and he gave me some startling news. He said that the fact that she had sex with another guy and is having his baby is immediate grounds for divorce. Furthermore, he said that she loses all rights to spousal support! Obviously, I will pay Ch*ld support for my boys who I love dearly; I just do not want to pay her any extra money for own enjoyment. The lawyer advised me to call her and see if she would "contest" the divorce. I did and she said that she would not contest it and that we could come up with an agreement. At this point, it appears that she will get ½ of my retirement, Ch*ld support, and that’s it. I will keep everyone posted.

By the way; I appreciate all of the comments; the good ones and the bad ones. I have planned my next trip to CR as the last week of Sept or the first week of Oct. Maybe I will do both![/quote]

MS,

I have personally been through 2 divorces both in which Ch*ldren were involved. Both started out like we were going to be adults and handle things civily, for the chilren. Unfortunately that attitude does not tend to last long. Pretty soon things become a real badass dog fight. I would advise you just to lay low for a while and stay out of CR for the immediate future. You might think that a trip to CR is just what you need but truth be told you have MUCH BIGGER concerns presently.

Yes, by all means hope for the BEST......but definetly plan for the WORSE ! The odds are it will turn real nasty before it starts to get better.
Best of luck to you and your family. Right now it is time to be the man and concentrate both your time and financial resources on minimizing the damage this split is going to cause your sons. And trust me that the chilren do suffer.

Im sure this is probably not what you want to here. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

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Rainman3

50% is not my idea of TAKE NO PRISONERS. That's one of the "touchy feely win/win" quasi non solutions. 50%of the pension? I don't think so. A heart to heart talk to the lawyer needs to take place and that discussion needs to center around the Ch*ld support payments and NOTHING for the pregnant one.....NOTHING.....EVER. $0.00 not the Eddie Murphy "I WANT HALF" bs.

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"Actual happiness always looks pretty squalid in comparison with the over-compensations for misery. And, of course, stability isn't nearly so spectacular as instability. And being contented has none of the glamour of a good fight against misfortune, none of the picturesqueness of a struggle with temptation, or a fatal overthrow by passion or doubt. Happiness is never grand."
- Aldous Huxley, Brave New World, Ch. 16

While I am not a family lawyer, I have always been told there are schedules set forth by statute that determine division of things such as pensions, etc. 50% is certainly a big pill to swallow but I would be hesitant to go for the take no prisoners approach when the only people who ultimately will prevail will be the lawyers. Especially if (soon to be ex) Mrs. Styles has been a homemaker over the duration of the marriage and gets to stick Mr. Styles with her lawyer fees too.
Take care of your boys' well-being and protect their future, Mickey, but do not let pride or vengance allow you to wage a battle that may ultimately be a huge failure. I've read your posts, seen your pics, you seem to be no nonsense. Make sure you maintain that demeanor when having candid discussions with your counsel about expectations and, just as important, costs and potential ramifications. Like Rainman said, hope for the best, plan for the worst.
Again, good luck bro.

I predict MS will be back with his wife before the year ends.

it's called surrendering, you don't like what has happened but you feel like you have no choice. But a woman pregnant by another man, i cannot imagine, myself, forgiving that.. still good luck..

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I know nothing, nothing!

Cariden,

Just how forgiving do you think Mrs. Styles would be if she were to see Mick's pics and read his posts ???

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Rainman3

Hey Rainman... I thought you were suppose to me "mentally challenged", but good at math! I have to agree with you though.

Berk....

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FRUITCAKE... and you thought it was something you eat! Not on CRT!

Seeing those pics/reading his posts would be her lawyer's wet dream...