As a Single Guy Has your Passion to date Gringas Diminished?

Goal · **Joined:** Thu Sep 18, 2003 7:51 pm **Posts:** 672

I was going through some old papers and was so impressed with this post I had printed it and filed it away. I'm bumping it again.

Funny since this December post I've taken 3 different "Costa Rica Virgins" and they are all hooked too lol. Going back July 4th weekend with one of them.

Anyway it's comforting somehow to know I'm not crazy, I meet lots of interesting Gringas but just not motivated to spend $$ on them. Ironically the less interested I am in them the more attentive they seem to be! Just another example of how neurotic Gringas are.

Interested to know if you mongers still feel the same six months later....

Admin 1 · **Posted:** Tue Jun 29, 2004 8:58 am

Goal was nice enough to forward this on from where I have no Idea, but I think it fits here and says it all Thanks GOAL!

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North American society today has evolved to the point where women have demanded to have equal access to traditional male dominated professions and institutions. The result of this aggressive forceful and demanding attitude is that women effectively want and expect to be more equal than men and as a result the doors have blown open to the point where it is not uncommon to see females in traditional male dominated jobs such as police, airline pilots, firefighters even CEO's. These gains have not been gained without a cost and women are in denial.

The cost to women has been the loss of their feminity, the very thing that attracts men to them. Women have reached the point where they want it all and without a cost. Women expect to be provided for in addition to being entertained by the men in their lives; that is the mans' burden. Many women have the attitude that a man is fortunate just to have a women in his life.

Men more and more are frustrated and find it more and more difficult to relate to women in a way that our parents were able to interact. The man and women's roles used to compliment one another NOT COMPETE with one another. Whether it be the workplace, the court system or even a recreational environment, North American women have the upper hand. Women view the stereotype domestic role with contempt or an inoffensive beauty pageant with disgust. Men are often criticized for not committing to women but fail to consider the downside to committing to a relationship that has only a 50% chance for success. Women are the ones who prevail in sexual harassment cases and this is convenient weapon in the arsenal women can use to gain advantage in the office. In today's corporate world often the most convenient route for a male employee accused of inappropriate is to discharge immediately and ask questions later.

In many 3rd world countries the traditional roles still exist. A man is respected, not held in contempt. Women are happy to fulfill a domestic role without complaint and in return are happy to have a man that is faithful and not a deadbeat. Today single male travel to 3rd world countries is at record levels.

Yes, many if not most men on vacation have several partners. Most guys however have been burned in marriages and love relationships in 3rd world countries and are cynical about relationships with women. I am as guilty as the next guy and have nothing but positive things to say about my relationships in 3rd world countries. I and all of my friends have treated the women we have met with dignity and respect. Feminists accuse us of exploiting women and I am still confused about the feminist definition of exploitation. In such relations I have always shown the greatest respect to the women I have been with and they for the most part have reciprocated. Yes most are commercial transactions but I have always viewed each one as a possible romantic relationship if the chemistry was right. It just happens that most 3rd world countries are populated by none white women. In my case I am able to look beyond the color and see the person inside. I do not feel that I am acting out some subconscious fantasy.

The feminists have chosen to enter and try to dominate the male arena. They have made great strides in the business world and have lost something in the process. Rather than look inside at what is wrong it is easier to blame men for the shortcomings in their lives. My visits to C.R. have changed my thinking about marriage and relations with women in a profound and powerful way. It made me realize how exploited I was, by North American women. The lengths that I used to go to simply to maintain and preserve a relationship now make my stomach turn. True it was give and take; usually 90% give and 10% take.

Today I have no desire even to consider a relationship with a North American woman. They can all read their Cosmopolitan Magazine's and make other poor unenlightened souls miserable. For me C.R. has affected my life in a very positive way. If anyone has the feminist definition of exploitation please pass it on.

Circus · **Posted:** Tue Jun 29, 2004 6:33 pm

YO 3rd world lovers:
In my numerous years of travel and domestic relationships I have found one thing that is universally much the same........WOMEN. Have not tried any men thank goodness so don't ask me for gay advice.

Yes, gringas, for the most part, have evolved into a real challenge as well as an expensive mating problem. Society changes over the last 30 years have taken it's toll on dating, marriage or just plain phucking. It use to be a challenge with me in my younger day but it was also katie bar the door in the free love 60's and disco-party 70's. Then things started going downhill for the swinging guy who chased pu*sy. By the 90's a good looking woman with respect and a good attitude was becoming an endangerd species. Hell, I'm almost afraid to approach one these days.....they might sue me for sexual misconduct or discrimination. I don't know about you guys but I find that by the 3rd or fourth question they ask you.....they're fishing for asset info.

Now, let me tell you I am also dismayed by the society changes in 3rd world women. As of a couple of weeks ago the last of several married gringo friends with ticas went south for divorce. That's five out of five. All due to the normal american type problems that end up in divorce. This does not include several broken up living together couple friends. The Phillipines and far eastern women are a much better bet but problems in distance and family are concerns also.

My conclusion is.... 3rd world country women, good head, good for sleeping with, a little GFI, travel companion BUT, no serious stuff or marriage. One hour or one night stands should be the motto. Keep your wealth out of that country. Gringas, same thing but more expensive and hell of a lot less plentiful. If you think your are serious RUN don't walk.....does not matter what country you are in. Yea, there are some that Old Circus can still find around here......but shit, I just hate it when I have to look under the bed for their dentures in the morning. Damn..... I miss Huggie.

Ablissman · **Posted:** Tue Jun 29, 2004 10:36 pm

My signature line sums up my attitude as it has been for several years:

Californication · **Posted:** Wed Jun 30, 2004 5:29 am

Circus wrote:

YO 3rd world lovers:
In my numerous years of travel and domestic relationships I have found one thing that is universally much the same........WOMEN.

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I agree 100 % with Circus on this one. The 3rd world girls are just a hell of a lot easier on the old wallet.

Cali

Don Giovanni · **Posted:** Thu Jul 01, 2004 9:42 pm

I am cursed with a 58 year old body and a 28 year old mind.

And in my mind, I don't like older women!

I tried a few young social workers in the USA, but they acted like they were doing me a favor, and it was blow and go as quick as they could. In Costa Rica, I have found some sweet young women who spend time with me and fulfill my fantasy --- they make me feel young and in love --- if only for one evening. I don't mind paying for that, and I'll keep going back as long as it lasts.

Downandup · **Posted:** Thu Jul 01, 2004 10:17 pm

The only woman I look at is the columbian in the office. Since the Brazilian hottie got fired (for screwing some other guy - not me) she is all I have to look at when I am not in Rio.

Bulldog148 · **Posted:** Fri Jul 02, 2004 2:52 pm

I've met Gman and LoveLatinas. I don't know the rest. My thoughts:

I'm 45 years old. I was married for 10 years and lived with her for 5 years prior. I have 2 great k*ds, a 15 year old girl and 13 year old boy. Both are on the right track. So, far, so good. I had a big house with a pool, 2 cars, a dog and a cat, and a wonderful inherited Italian New York family for in laws. She divorced me in 1997. I was 39 years old. She got everything. I got a pile of Ch*ld support. I met a 23 year old hottie that worked with me. Long story short, it turns out she was a stripper on the side. I got married to her and embarked on the journey that all men wish for. "If I knew then what I know now, I could've gotten much more p*ssy". 6 years that was an absolute blast until I ended it. No matter how hot a woman is, somewhere there is a guy that wants to choke the sh*t out of her every time she opens her mouth. Then I made my first trip to Costa Rica.....

It changed my outlook on the dating scene in the USA. Why do it?? No matter how wonderful a woman may seem in the US, she will inherently siphon off funds that could be used at a later time to go back to CR. I still go out for cocktails and dancing with friends, but with less of a sense of urgency to find a steady source of poon or to find that needle in the haystack dream woman. It was nice to go to a place where the women return a smile and are not afraid to engage in casual conversation... or anything else.

To be honest, I think this attitude has actually helped me strike up more casual relationships with AWs, and therefore, their attitude dosen't really play into it. Women are women and men are men and if the chemistry and everything else is there, it will lead to it's ultimate conclusion. I'm not looking for a woman of any nationality in particular. I'm done looking.

OK. I'll wrap this up. I was drunk, laying on a lounge chair, on the beach in Jaco. It was 2:00 am. I was smoking a Cuban cigar, drinking an Imperial and looking up at an endless black sea of stars. There was a hot little Dominicana giving me oral. I was waiting for a revelation to come to me as to what I really wanted out of life, and then I realized...I was doing it..................DOG

Kotigre · **Posted:** Fri Jul 02, 2004 5:45 pm

back in the US I was pretty fed up with gringas myself and I thought things would be different in CR and it was different due to the gulch but outside of the gulch, things arent that different.

I dont know how many of you have had a girlfriend in CR but let me tell you that I've gone out with a few educated non-pros in there mid to late 20s that speak perfect English and come from good family. These chicks are just like gringas. They expect you to treat them like queens and they think they are better then everybody else. Typical conversation is what do you do for a living, you got a car here? where do you live(as is it a nice rich neighborhood). Those are the one that piss me off.

That's why if I keep a girlfriend(hasnt happened yet) or a few off the side plaything I stick to ticas that do not speak english, have only high school education level but that have manners. They are the ones that have always treated me like a god and appreciate the little things I do for them.

The other biatches are fun for a one night stand but anything longer and they turn into gringas. With either girls though, in the long run it's cheaper to get a pro then have a girlfriend. Maybe not always as satisfying but this boy isn't looking for a wife!!!!

In the end, I think it's still about the person you end up meeting. I've had my share of educated and non-educated ticas and you'll find some good one and some bad one. Just trying to say, if you dont go pro you date at your own risk.

Tman · **Posted:** Sat Jul 03, 2004 9:34 am

This has really turned into a most insightful and honest thread. While most of us have migrated to CR and Latinas for many good reasons, some of these latest posts provide some reality to our fantasy life. Some guys have different wants and needs as do women from any corner of the world. And in any corner of the world, there is a variety of women AND men who want different things or make different life choices. Some of us have decided to be very content with mongering and renting our sexual lives by the hour or day. Others of us continue to pursue and hope for some form of traditional male/female long term bond that fulfills a need to "know and be known" to the deepest degree possible. Some of us have an interesting balance of good domestic relationship PLUS time and money for side adventures in Costa Rica. In the end, no harm, no foul. There is room for each individual to make of their lives what they want. If you want longterm companionship...that is available...in CR AND in the US. It just may be a bit more expensive and hard work in the US :roll:

. For the rental fantasy program, its hard to beat San Jose for party and temporary fantasy.

I also agree with kotigre that to pursue "regular" dating relationships in CR with educated privileged Ticas can be a similar journey to the single scene stateside. In the end, we live in a shrinking globe, and women are women are women wherever you go. One of my mottos is "wherever you go...there you are". You cant run from who you are, your limitations or your preferences. Sure you can pretend, but lifes realities always have a way of bringing us back to center. If you are a "nice guy", you can find nice relationships anywhere so obviously there are more options is some corners of the world. If you are a meanspirited, hardass type...you can find abusive or mutually abusive/ co-dependent type relationships anywhere in the world. The only differences usually are in which language these relational options are carried out. A lot of Americans are not able to get over language and cultural differences, so...most of them will never know what Costa Rica has to offer. They will stay in their home towns or home country and carry out the traditions and values of their forefathers. Others of us will be the adventurers, explorers, and yes...restless and unsatisfied. We will pursue adventure and what we want at all costs...and learn a lot of survival techniques along the way.

Well, this has waxed quite philosophical, but in summary...lets not be TOO heavy handed on gringas. They are a result of a culture and consumerism that has taken the american dream to a level of disatisfaction and losing ones soul and core. Some of THEM are even coming to CR to find themselves again...and yes, even their sexual identities. Like someone else just said above, in regular dating relationships, if you were successful in the US, you will be successful here. If you had hangups relating to women there, you will have hangups in the long run here. If you're just looking for fantasy on any level...well, you've come to the right place :twisted:

Dave · **Joined:** Wed Aug 27, 2003 6:51 pm **Posts:** 911

My opinion in this is somewhat different and probably won't go over very well in this forum but I think it is important for the younger set here to realize that we, who are over, say, 40, have a different interest in Costa Rica and mongering than a younger person should. I say this because it is my belief that we older mongers enjoy the mongering for the feeling of youth again and excitement, to revisit the past, to play because we can and we will continue the mongering until the end of our capability to do so. We, as a general rule, are not looking for any relationships except GFE. We don't need to get anything out of it except that which makes us happy.

Now the younger set. For men up to 40 and those that are just beginning to yearn for K*ds and relationships, getting involved with Costa Rica to any major degree, is, in my view, a mistake. Very few males will be satisfied with their lives in the end if they end up alone and the only legacy that they have left behind is their mongering. I know that the majority here will be content and have come to a sense of peace of where they are in their journey of life. However, I would not want to put the "life of mongering" on a young man that would draw him away from the need of realtionships in his life.

For those under 40 and those that still hope to have a long term realtionship with a woman: Don't compare that which you can get for money in Costa Rica with the relationship that you probably all would prefer. Work hard at a relationship. Work as hard as you do at your job. Take setbacks that you have in relationships the way you take setbacks at your job. Does being fired from 10 jobs mean that you should move to Costa Rica to work? If honesty were to prevail here, it is not always the gringas that screw up the relationships in the states.

For me, I am in my second marriage and have been married for over 20 years. It is extremely blissfull and I continue to get laid two or three times a day by my wife. My wife lets me monger whenever I want. Yes, I have life made but I worked for it and let go of the petty bull that generally ruin relationships.

Again, as always, these are my opinions and I respect the opinions of others and hope they respect mine.

Hava a Great Day,

Dave

PacoLoco · **Posted:** Tue Apr 26, 2005 10:49 am

Have brought this topic back to life with a new poll in the VIP forum-
https://costaricaticas.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=6198

RearWindow · **Posted:** Wed Apr 27, 2005 10:13 pm

My passion for gringas is now nonexistant (well except for one coworker at the moment). It's Latinas all the way for me, although that may change after LOS in October.

Ticalover · **Joined:** Fri Dec 26, 2003 6:40 pm **Posts:** 115

My passion for gringas is non existent, matter of fact I find them repulsive and annoying. If I ever do get married I have left my mind open to marrying a foreign women with the latinas as the far ahead front runners.

I would never, ever seriously think about marrying a del rey hooker or any other hooker for that matter, but give me a choice to marry a del rey hooker that I could pick out or your typical gringa and I honestly think I go with the del rey hooker ...maybe that would give some folks perspective on how I have come to see typical American women.

They are pretty disgusting and to ever marry them is probably just a slight notch above committing suicide.

LOL, can you tell I don't care too much for them????

Irish Drifter · **Posted:** Fri Apr 29, 2005 11:55 pm

I understand that is a popular sport here to bash gringas, and maybe with some justification, based on your experience with them.

But to post this:

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, but give me a choice to marry a del rey hooker that I could pick out or your typical gringa and I honestly think I go with the del rey hooker

is flat out ridiculous.

To lump all gringas as less desirable than a DR hooker :?:

Guess you have no sisters and will not even broach the subject of your parent. Get real

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