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The quote in bold is one of the funniest things I have ever read.

Treating women like shit will get you very far.
Just because Latinos don't know how to treat women doesn't mean we should act in a similar way. I thought that by opening a door or pulling out a chair for a woman I was being a gentleman, but I now see that I'm just a sucker. C'mon.

Touche' Orange!

People can think what they want, but I'm still going to treat women with respect, no matter which country I'm in. And if opening a car door, or pulling out a chair for them makes me a sap, then I'm a very large phucking SAP!

It IS possible to have both. Believe it or not, it's possible to be respectful to women, while still maintaining that degree of respect from them in return. Once you learn how to do that, you'll be miles ahead of the game. And that's MY dos colones....

MG

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You ALWAYS have an option ....... "NEXT" !!!

Being a gentleman and firm and in control of a relationship with a woman are not mutually exclusive. Too many mistake being firm with poor tratment and being a jerk.


BKTUNA

Mi dos colones

Maybe I am in the minority, but I was raised to be a gentlemen regardless of the circumstances. In return I am treated extremely well by all I come into contact with on my many trips to CR

Women in a foreign country at times are forced to do what is needed to SURVIVE. Many women I have met and spoken with in CR have had no opportunity from parents to finish schooling and are forced into a line of work that maybe some find degrading.

There are also others I have met and spent time with who have in the past sold their bodies for money and are now completely out of the business and working legitimate jobs. I have quite a bit of respect for these women as it is very difficult for them trying to better themselves with very little help from family.



To Quote mi amigos MG and Orange....

"It IS possible to have both. Believe it or not, it's possible to be respectful to women, while still maintaining that degree of respect from them in return. Once you learn how to do that, you'll be miles ahead of the game"

"Just because Latinos don't know how to treat women doesn't mean we should act in a similar way. I thought that by opening a door or pulling out a chair for a woman I was being a gentleman"

Truthful words, take heed my brothers.

While there are merits to all that has been written previously I think one of the keys to the "role playing" is BALANCE. You can be a gentleman but just don't let her think you are a doormat.

You can do little things for her like buying a little gift (stuffed doll, etc) and make a big hit without going the jewelry route.

My novia is coming to the USA on vacation this fall. We will meet in Miami and head to the Keys for a few days. I usually ask what they want to do to give them the idea that I want their input but I hold the right to make the final decision.
I asked her where she wanted to stay. This was her response:

"Baby, Key West or Islamorada are a good places for me only I want to go to the beach and be with you. Please you select for us..."

in other words, they want a man who can put a plan together and TAKE CHARGE. They want to be taken care of and made to feel secure. There is a lot of room for flexibility in this and if you're not afraid to assert your masculinity from time to time they will respect you and love you that much more.

It may sound like a cliché but amazingly it's true.

There is simply a fine line at keeping someone happy with you & respectful. Go too far & it is OVER! There is an art to applying the right psychology at the right moment. I agree much of it is a power play but you can't be an asshole either that is unless you are trying to dump one.

My experience shows much better results to let the woman have input but NEVER relinquish your control! The day she controls it all YOU ARE PHUCKED FOR SURE!

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Great point Wit. There needs to be a balance. This is exactly what I meant by this statement


I'm sorry, but I don't believe in treating a woman like dog-shit, just because she's a woman, and I'm supposed to be master of my universe, along with all that other macho crap. Hell no, that dog won't hunt!

And just because she's smaller than me, or weaker than me, or she may not make as much money as me, or she's selling her cuerpo for money..... I don't give a sh*t, one way or another. And that certainly doesn't give me carte blanche' to be an a$$hole towards her. While some may think it's wrong, I was brought up to treat other people (men AND women) as I would like to be treated. To date, this has served me well. YMMV!

MG

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You ALWAYS have an option ....... "NEXT" !!!

This may not pass for wisdom but I'm gonna say it anyway - in the end all relationships are judgement calls. You are going to have to take in all the views you've seen on the board and take yer best shot. It's your life and its a damn shame to pass up a chance at happiness - it is also a damn shape to get played like a cheap harmonica. Sometimes its not easy to tll the difference right away. just don't get into anything you can't get out of if it all goes south. FWIW.