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KC...Good advise all around and again congrats on finding real GF. My relationship is still going strong after 2 years living together...and in my mind it really is about having a more mature woman who can meet your needs ALL the way around...including in business. My lady works for me in my biz AND keep the house better than any of my 2 ex wives. Never a complaint or "can you help me clean" or "help with the dishes". The only time I have cleaned a dish is when she is gone...I dont leave messes for her or take advantage of her service mentality...which is her way of saying thanks and I love you. (along with other ways )

All in all, I got over the fantasy of being with 21 yr old hookers after my first 3-4 months here. Yet, we have to be realistic that most of the guys on our board are here once or twice a year and dont have time to INVEST in a real GFE. They are looking to get their rocks off, party, and forget their lives in the USofA. Thats fine and thats why the Delrey is so successful. I am now enjoying a real life and relationship that would be difficult or impossible to have in USA.

K.C.

I hear you loud and clear.........and In my heart I know that's the way to go........as soon as I get the 23 yr old out of my system. And the 21 yr old and mabye the 25 yr old too......

Actually what you said is the direction i'm headed for........thanks

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" I have neither the time nor the inclination to expain myself "

Just a short update. I've been on the road traveling since monday am and am only catching up on the posts. Part of my problem is that she hadn't written or emailed in 8 days. She emailed mucho and we talked by phone on monday. She has explained all as best she could and we have both got some real sticking points. She has long ago labeled me as " Obstinado" and she is the same. There is no indication on anyones part including my friend who saw her that she was either gambling or peddling her butt. My experience with her is that she is deeply religious (7th day adventist of all things) and actually very principaled. That at mealtime, she grabs my hand to pray and has actually slapped the fork out of my hand if I tried to eat before the prayer. She is Honduran and totally alone on CR. The only way she can leave is to surrender her 2 year old son. She is not looking to go to the United States even tho her sister has immigrated to the DC area years ago. Again, she does not benefit from the CR socialized medicine. She is obviously a " survivor "in every sense of the word and mature beyond her years. She is adament that her Ch*ldren are her responsibility and is very thankful that I pay attention to them.She has introduced me to the many girlfriends who have helped her in the past and they are not hookers. Salon owners..Cell phone store owners and the like. She is adament that Melanie has helped her now and in the past without hesitation . Having paid for food and rent and medicines when she had nothing which is almost always.

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My life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out and loudly proclaiming...." MAN....WHAT A RIDE!!!!"

I do want to thank each of you for your input. I am a thinker and many of you have provided me with food for thought. The perfect ending to this story would be for everything to work out for she and I, that I would win post of the month and have to give it to Vegas Bob.

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My life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out and loudly proclaiming...." MAN....WHAT A RIDE!!!!"

I want to add one more piece of advice with regard to finding a real GF either here or anywhere for that matter. IMHO women can smell a needy man much the same that a shark can smell blood in the water. Sort of the principal that you just don't crave what you can easily obtain and conversely how much sweeter it is to obtain something that is difficult to get.
I resisted the GF thing for months by making it clear that I did not want an exclusive arrangement. After time, I changed my mind but it took a lot of work and time on her part. This is an excellent strategy.
Also, once you commit to them, you gotta let them know if that if they become a problem to you, you are willing to walk away.

Always approach a new relationship this way with women. The more they don't think they can have you, the more they want you. Sure, enjoy their company and have fun but don't be too quick to commit yourself to them exclusively. If it won't stand the test of time, it wasn't gonna work anyway.


Remember, here in CR, at the end of the day, you know you are always gonna get laid one way or the other. Use this to your advantage.

Real....... listen to VB and forget this chica if she is involved with this Melanie.. he knows what he is talking about and always speaks the truth.
Nothing good can come of this. If you want to see her, make it on your terms and don't be pussywhipped.

I nominate the above post by King Costa as "Post of the month."

In my experience in regard to women in general... nothing could be closer to the truth.

That's what's so incredible about CR! I'll relate a funny incident that
happened with a buddy of mine around 1999. He had met an attractive
Tica at one of the more up-scale hotels in the SJ area. She was in her late thirties or very early forties and worked as a waitress/bartender at the hotel. She was really a very nice girl/woman. He took her out one evening for dinner and a couple drinks, then dropped her off via taxi at her house. Upon returning to the taxi after seeing her to her door, the taxi driver says "And now senor...Hotel Del Rey?" Of course he
replied "Si, pronto"

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"In a nation ruled by swine, all pigs are upwardly mobile, and the rest of us are phucked until we can put our acts together; not necessarily to win, but mainly to keep from losing completely"...Hunter S. Thompson (RIP)

ok

I am a newbie, no posting for any one to read yet. But while I have not been to Costa Rica I have been to another countries where Americans are seen as walking ATM's.

Anyway had an experience where I tried to have a relationship with a very young sexy woman that turned into a drama filled romance which always seemed to be me giving her money for the younger sister, or the mother. It got to where I felt she would have used me to pay for new shoes for the entire village.

But then I stopped, because there is one thing that is important in any relationship which is respect. I was not getting respect, I was trying to buy it. If she had really cared about me and respected me I would have gotten less letters about how much money she needed and more questions about when I would be returning to be with her.

Now I would like to bring up a point from your story which was that once she was seen at the casino by your friend she asked that you not be told.
Also she took the word of this Melanie about you lying to her finds out it is not true and then after all that drama is out on the town with her.

I really do wish you the best of luck if this is the path you want to pursue, but I have to be honest it does not seem that she is showing you the respect you deserve. If you want to be in a relationship make certain that both of you are in a relationship.

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Bastion

Just a reminder from previous multiple posts by multiple experiences CRTers...These cute little Latinas are professional manipulators, users, and yes...liars. Someone said, when their lips are moving...they are normally lying.

TO get out of that syndrome, you really need to move up in class, age and education. Just no way around it for long term romance and relationships.

My previous tagline: Hooker Mantra, "Ask me no questions, I tell you no lies."

dapanz1

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Paradise= Sitting outside the Bodega in Panama City about 1 am. Drinking cool Balboas with cool friends and blazin' hot Colombianas. I want to be there..RIGHT NOW!

THIS REALLY IS A NO BRAINER....



The girl has been corrupted and is starting to play you.

PUT A STOP TO IT IMMEDIATELY!!

Start saying no to her requests and YOU start laying down the parameters in the realtionship according to how you want the relationship to be.

The most important thing to remember hear that so many gringos forget or are just to much of numbskulls to figure out is....

YOU HAVE THE POWER HERE!!! YOU HAVE THE MONEY HERE,AND THE LAWS OF SUPPLY AND DEMAND FAVOR YOU GREATLY!!!!! YOU ALSO HAVE THE POWER TO WALK AWAY ANY TIME YOU WANT TO FIND THE SAME THING SOMEWHERE ELSE!!! DO NOT BE AFRAID TO UTILIZE THE POWER YOU HAVE!!!

One thing I have noticed over and over again in CR is that so many of the guys down there made foolish choices/mistakes in the States (I Think alot of it really is weakness to the point of being a severe character flaw) and then come down to Costa Rica and make the same mistakes. They really never changed their habits of poor choices and continue to be taken advantage of.

TELL THIS GIRL TO GET LOST!!! If she comes back lay down the rules bigtime according to money, drama, etc.

Otherwise, just go out and get another girl, but the most important thing is STAND UP FOR YOURSELF AND DON'T LET THE GIRL WHO BRINGS NOTHING TO THE TABLE WALK ON YOU!!!

Some people might respond and say the chica does bring something to the table...she brings "sex"....What a bunch of bullshit this is....We are taking about Costa Rica and Latin America here....SEX CAN BE HAD EVERYWHERE FOR A SMALL FEE OR FOR FREE!!!! Why do guys continue to make things harder than they have to be????

I firmly believe that this hardcore Melani or whoever can easily be managed as well....but it's not going to happen for so many schmucks out there because they lay down and act like wimps.

My experience is, whether you are here in the states or anywhere else, all relationships of any sorts are basically just one big negotiation and the stronger a person negotiates the more enjoyment he/she gets out of the relationship. The weaker and timid a person acts, the more miserable the person is.

ticalover, wise word's..................

ok

Good post. It really is all about keeping the control and not letting these little manipulators be in charge. Men have always been conditioned that women are in control of sex.