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I'm still a newbie here but in my opinion, the majority of these guys aren't giving you good advice. It's the either leave them or be pu*sy whipped advice. My advice is to get back in the house right now and have a talk with her. Tell her that the relationship is over and that you are now both free to see others BUT you WILL not get a divorce because of the Ch*ldren. And get this agreement in writing. This way you protect your assets, retain your ability to see the K*ds, be able to continue to monger and trust me, you will piss her off to no end when she knows that you are going to CR and phucking tons of girls (who in her imaginationwill be hotter than her and most likely is anyways) while her new loser of a man (they all think that at sometime during the relationship don't they) just hang out at home watching football all day. If God gave you lemon, go and make lemonaide.

But do this now while she's still feeling guilty, the moment guilt turns to anger, she might just take you for everything you have and with the laws we have in this country, looking out for the Ch*ldren and oftentimes the woman, you will lose out big time. This deal can only benefit you and the only way you can salvage the things you love.

As for many of the guys who "adamantly" don't believe in Karma, I wonder just what percentage are married and still have regular trips to monger destinations?

Ryu,

Bro, she is the mom and evidently the primary caregiver of the chilren! Fact of life is she is going to win big. Half of all marital assets, alimony and Ch*ld support. Odds are MS won't have the money for a few drinks in the pub much less money for mongering trips. And trust me from personal experience that staying married "for the K*ds" never, never lasts very long.

It is life's most difficult moments that are always our best teachers. They force us to analyze what is really important to each of us. You can take a look at how a man spends his money and learn what is dear & near to his soul.

mes dos colones,

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Rainman3

Rainman3-
No-I got divorced in'92--son born in '83.
I took him when he was 19, and then again when he turned 21---and yes, he enjoyed the finer things of CR. I think it was a definite plus for him to see what is possible outside the US, especially non-gringa attitudes

Mikey, I am sorry to hear about your situation. I will not vote on the poll b/c I feel for you, and as a believer in karma, karma is not in play here as it is your Ch*ldren who will be hurt the most. Besides, we don't know which came first, your wife's extra curricular's or your's, and the reasons behind them. Lack of sex(by her), lack of romance(by you), stress(both), lack of caring, etc. I have been a fan of your writings and your pics. And the minute I read this thread's title, I remembered your previous post about your ability to hide your trips. Maybe she saw your computer, credit cards, camera, photo memory sticks, etc. Maybe she did find out where you were really going and what you were really doing. You didn't say if she did. Or she may still not know. Maybe she was doing it before or while you were "partaking in the hobby." Other than the initial blow, you don't say how mad, jealous, or hurt you are. Sure, your ego may be bruised, but maybe you can forgive her, maybe you are numb to her extramarital affairs. It is possible, and I know many married guys, who actually have very open relationships with their spouses. Maybe after time you both lost the spark. I know it's easy b/c I lived w/someone for over 10 years and it was no worse than being married. Toward the end I didn't care what she did when I was out of town mongering and though we never mentioned it, I think we both knew what we were up to. It was almost like a "don't ask/don't tell" kind of thing.

Now, your Ch*ldren make all the difference here. For their sake, please don't curse or slam their mom. Spend lots of time with them, everyday if possible, and let them know you're still their Dad. Maybe, now that some time as passed, you meet with her again and decide to work through this together. She will always be in your life and so will the new K*D so try to be at least congenial. If you can do it, go back home and be with your boys. Is it possible to forgive her, live with her and make an open marriage arrangement? Or will the new K*D be too painful of a reminder? You didn't say much about the other guy, if you know him or not, but my guess is he will fly the coup and leave your wife to fend for herself. Yeah, she got herself in this mess, but do have some decency toward her since you've been having a hell of lotta fun on your own. And your activities certainly surpassed hers. Also, another option, and maybe most suitable, sit down together, agree to keep the sharks and the courts out of it, and make and write out your own financial and custody agreements. Doing this should alleviate the financial hit although I would assume that may not be a big concern ost f yours as it seems you are very well off.

These thoughts and dos pesos(probably all its worth), is just my take on it. I wish you the best and I'll miss the pics for awhile. In any case, I am sorry bro, and I would like to buy you some drinks next time you are in CR, and BTW, get down there to blow off some steam, have some fun, and get your mind off of it for a few days. Even though you have turned to the CRT brotherhood for advice, support, and just to get it off your chest, I would get expert advice from an attorney, counselor, pastor, or other trusted adviser.

PURA VIDA!


PS If you get served, delete all your photos from your cameras, computers, etc. If you're trips to CR are found out, say you went there on business but didn't tell her b/c you didn't want her to worry you were going to 3rd world country with lots of crime. Only necessary of course, if you are not in a "no fault" state.

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Livin' & Lovin' in Key Largo....oh....And the one in The Keys, too!

Hey Mikey,

I forgot one more thing, and on the lighter side, if it is irreconcilable, and it doesn't work out. You'll still have your boys, be free of a gringa ball & chain, and you'll be free to do whatever the phuck you want with no worries or repercussions. You'll be free to ROAM, and we all know, ROAM you'll do! You may even be envied for it. Now, get that plane ticket!

PUTA VIDA!

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Livin' & Lovin' in Key Largo....oh....And the one in The Keys, too!

Duardo, yesterday I consulted an attorney here in Georgia and he gave me some startling news. He said that the fact that she had sex with another guy and is having his baby is immediate grounds for divorce. Furthermore, he said that she loses all rights to spousal support! Obviously, I will pay Ch*ld support for my boys who I love dearly; I just do not want to pay her any extra money for own enjoyment. The lawyer advised me to call her and see if she would "contest" the divorce. I did and she said that she would not contest it and that we could come up with an agreement. At this point, it appears that she will get ½ of my retirement, Ch*ld support, and that’s it. I will keep everyone posted.

By the way; I appreciate all of the comments; the good ones and the bad ones. I have planned my next trip to CR as the last week of Sept or the first week of Oct. Maybe I will do both!

Good point Prolijo. However, I respect the opinions of my brethren at CRT. I have met many of the members and I thought that I may be able to get some good advice!

Mikey!

Kickstand, I am glad that you liked my photos. I have hundreds more to post; I am just waiting for all of the "heat" in CR to die down. Once the issues have subsided, I will continue posting pics for everyone to enjoy. Stay tuned!

M. Styles

Thanks Hank! I moved out last weekend and my K*ds were with me the entire time. They had fun decorating their room, we ate pizza, hung out at the mall, and had a great time. I realize that this does not replace me being in our house, but the time that we will share will be the best that I can make it. They got a kick out of the fact that they now have 2 houses. I know that this will not last long, but I am going to spend as much time with them as I possibly can. I am also going to get back to CR as soon as I can.

Mikey

Hey Phoenix; it is going to feel wierd sitting in the DR not having my cell phone ringing and me running out to the street to answer the call from my wife. I some perverted way, I enjoyed frolicking to CR and getting away with it 3 to 4 times per year. I guess I can go whenever I want now?

Mike

Good point Berk! The K*ds are the number 1 priority and obviously, they will be taken care of financially. However, my goal is to also take care of them emotionally.

I probably deserved what I got, but I am going to try to find a bright side to this dark cloud. At least I no longer have to worry about her hacking into my computer and viewing all of my photos of women from the DR, SL, ZB, Las Gatittas, and others. Also, at night, I can now leave my wallet and passport on the nightstand. I can also leave my laptop on and open without worrying about her trying to guess my password.

Mike

50, you know that you are a dear friend and I appreciate your response. On my next trip to CR, I am going to bring my digital camcorder and we need to hook up for the ultimate experience in chica footage. We need to take it to the next level my friend!

Mike

Mike, I kind of "got off" on being married and getting away with going to CR as much as possible. I hope that being divorced will not negatively impact my photography....

Mikey Styles

Dapanz1, I could not help but laugh out loud when I read your post. You are right; I thought that I was fooling my wife, but I was really fooling myself. Nevertheless, my trips to CR will continue as long as she does not "take me to the cleaners" (so to speak). I must say that my post truly does speak volumes and it validates my buddy's theory about Karma. I wonder if my next trip is going to be as fun because no one will be checking on me to make sure that I am actually back home in the States....

M.

LOL!

Mikey