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And this travel solo freedom from my experience has to be a precedent set early on in the relationship.
I couldn’t agree more with this statement! This is where most men mess up I feel. I have seen so many men act like Mr. Macho until he finds some woman he is in heat about which in turn he reduces himself to silly putty. Once the woman senses her strength or spell over Mr. silly putty the ground rules get laid in her favor. This is a huge mistake.
I would tell my own son you set the course by the ground rules YOU set at the beginning. Women that are crazy about you will follow you like a lost puppy. Don’t give them more control over you than necessary as you will live to regret it.
I have always believed it is super important to take the main control in any relationship after all someone has too so it might as well be you over her. You still have to maintain balance to keep them happy so I let them win at the little things. When guys start referring to the wife as MOM you only giving her more control IMHO. Some men want a mom & don’t mind the control at the beginning when things are fresh & still hot. Later in life as things cool off you find yourself needing some fresh air, needing some time to yourself to revitalize your soul. We are all creatures of habit so thinking ahead to keep them conditioned is very important.
Many divorces are precipitated from knee jerk reactions we have from feeling cornered & we suddenly “change†when all we had to do was keep the right state of conditioning in the relationship.
Nice post Zippy: one MUST establish from the beginning of the relationship that you travel 2-3 times a year to fish/hunt and have 10 business trips a year and that is what happens every year..... no questions nor debate thats just what you do and will do...not open for discussion.
Do not deface your passport its a federal document and it carries a severe penalty and customs will assume the worst about yourself and why you did that and they wont think it was because of your wife or SO.
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