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King Costa...I'm a little curious. I find that statement hard to believe.
Does your GF come from a 'well-to-do' (by CR standards) family? I've dated a couple of total non-pro Ticas who came from relatively poor families. They worked 'regular' jobs (hairdresser, secretary). Eventually, the requests for money came. Granted, it was nowhere near the frequency or amount of my semi-pro Tica experience(s), but nevertheless, the requests still arrived.
One other question...are you two fairly close in age?

If the situation is truly as you describe, then it sounds like you've found a real 'gem'. Bueno suerte.

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K.C.
I think you hit the nail on the head. Even some of us who originally came to CR just to bang anything that moves , would like to find that LTR.

What's imprtant is to be realistic, the odds are just as low if you try to date an american with a lot of baggage. Puta or not . It's really not that different.
I'm guilty of it too, but then I sit back and and think , o.k. i'm a 40 something overweight guy , what do I offer to a twenty somthing Cr girl besides money , that would make her want to be with me, instead of someone her own age ( or close)
I'm still wondering ........and if anyone can give me an good answer i'd love to hear it.

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Hey Real.

You write a good novel.
I was pretty well involved with it all.

Then I snapped back after reading some responses.

For me...
And for everybody it is different...

I don't want all the drama...
Nor the baggage of offspring...
I guess I am kinda selfish that way.

For you on the other hand....
It may be what makes your boat float...
As they say in Thailand- "Up to you".

As for Melanie the casino chick.
Bad influence and you may have lost by now.

I say remember the good times ...
And try to duplicate them elsewhere.

If you got it and you wanna - send the money.
It does helps them and it makes YOU feel good.
Just keep in mind it is not really buying you much
It should be sent UNCONDiTIONALLY - no strings!
Then neither you nor she are held to any standard of accountability.

Hope this is of some interest.

Zart

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RealmanK...I related the following incident about a year ago, but I'll tell it again for your (and others) benefit.
I had been involved with a semi-pro Tica for about a year. I sent her
an email (translated into Spanish) explaining what a pre-nuptial agreement was, and that I would require her to sign it. She replied that she would and there was no problem. On my next visit to CR, we were eating in one of the nicer restaurants when she asked me how much she and her ch*ldren would receive in the event of our divorce. Apparently
she didn't fully comprehend the implications of a pre-nup. I told her that
she would receive roughly what she entered the marriage with...nada/nothing. You should have seen her face...it was like she had seen a ghost. After a few seconds of disbelief/shock, she started to throw
a fit right there at the table. Needless to say, that ended the relationship. It was immediately obvious what her intentions had been all along. I should have seen it beforehand, but I was somewhat
of an idiot. Many chicas believe they can marry a Gringo, then
divorce him after a short time and get half of everything he has. Beware!

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I think i posted this on another thread but for years we would see local Puertorican taxi driver come back from their vacations married to young dominican girls only to see 8 months latter a record setting number of divorces.

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When it comes to wives, a late wife is much cheaper than an ex wife.

Gringo Tim:

This is true that she has never asked me for anything. I'm not going to tell you that I don't do things to help her out.... of course I do because she brings me a ton of pleasure on many levels and it is my pleasure to.
There is an 18 year difference in age but she was looking for a more mature man anyway. I am in good physical shape and I do look younger than I am. No one looks twice at us walking down the street. Also, she is 32 years old and more mature that a 23 y.o. I also think that is a big factor here.

Also I do have business interests in Costa Rica and she works for me as well. I think this is excellent because she gets the satisfaction of helping me and enjoys the work a lot.

As I have told many a friend in CR it is very important not to overindulge these women. The relationship has been built over time and she has helped me out as much as I have helped her out. I think that is what forges healthy relationships between anybody.

My observation is that so many of our gringos come here so needy that they overdulge these women and try to "buy the relationship". How do you expect the women to see it any other way?

If you barely know someone and you start dropping expensive gifts and money on them why would anyone expect them to think any other way?
My advice for all parties interest would be to take things slow and be careful how you spend money on them.

KC,

Boy do you know your stuff and how things work with women. You should teach a class that's mandatory for American guys to take before they start interacting with females. Especially the ones headed to South and Central America where they seem determined to turn these girls into self-centered Gringas.

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OK Jaggededge

I hear your pain and I am going to give you some advice. Dude, you are middle aged and overweight, right.. Do you really think a hot chica 23 y.o. is going to find you sexy and attractive?

You need to set your sights realistically here. Look for a chica over 30 maybe a 5 or 6 on the looks side. You have a decent shot that she may like you for more than the money because she will realize you can "BUY A HOT CHICA ANYWAY IN 5 MINUTES OR LESS"

This same type of women may also be realistic that she ain't gonna land Brad Pitt. Now you have a potential for a real relationship if you don't phuck it up by dumping a lot of money and gifts on her.

Start by taking them to a cheap restaurant and if you feel you need to buy them something, buy them something inexpensive. That means it is the thought that counts and not the dollar value.

I bought my GF the first piece of jewelry after 4 months and it cost me 2,000 colones. She wore it proudly because it was from me.
So many of these women are dying to meet a nice gringo guy who can appreciate all they have to offer. Many are really sweet and passionate women waiting for the right guy to come along.

Thanks for kudos Tim........

I think this is a very relevant thread and valuable.

i have been lurking for a while and am starting to see there is a lot of stuff going on.
did you guys get lessons or does everyone learn the hard way? this shit really messes up my mind.
would i be safer just hitting on a shop clerk somewhere?

Mi Amor....

My lessons have been a lifetime of studying human behavior and learning from my mistakes.

King Costa,You have great words of wisdom.I have yet to meet you but certainly hope to some day.I enjoy women a bit older and find them more mature as well.If I and when I am looking for real girl friend material a ordinary lady in her 30's would certainly be where I would look ar near 50.rbc100

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Once again, excellent advice! In one relationship I had with a total non-pro Tica, I started off by taking her to expensive restaurants such as
Lukas, Antonio's, the Mirador (top floor of the HI), etc. She came from a very poor family and worked as a hairdresser in Los Yoses. She was in her mid-thirties and looked a little like Julia Roberts. After a while, she
told me she didn't like going to expensive restaurants, and preferred
cheaper ones and even the fast-food places and pizza. She was a sweet girl, but just my luck, she had mental problems (paranoid schizophrenia)
that eventually ended the relationship. I probably would have married her were it not for her mental problems. The main point is she preferred the simpler (and inexpensive) things and life-style. I should have learned from the experience, but my next relationship was with a semi-pro Tica with whom I repeated the same thing initially as I had done with the non-pro...taking her to expensive restaurants, etc. Only this time, the semi-pro always wanted the expensive places, and didn't appreciate the
simpler things. Needless to say, the relationship with the semi-pro
was a disaster. The bottom line is, as King Costa stated, do not overindulge the chicas, and find one who truly appreciates the little
things you do for her.

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