Beachbumm wrote :
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"I think I'm a little bitter at the courting of normal girls and I feel guilty for being like that. My solution was to stay away, but after reading a little perhaps I should reconsider my course of action."
I think it's possible to have the best of both worlds. But it's not easy, and you can't have it with just anybody. Basically, your steady - phuck, girlfriend, wife - has to be willing to allow you time to be alone. If she needs more info, then she ain't the girl. The advantage once you have this is you can also have a real relationship, somebody to be with you when life jumps out and bites.
When you have a good relationship with a highly sexual girl - for me, it had to be a Latina - you become less addicted to the rush of mongering. It never goes away, but it's decidely less. And when you do get away for a week, you don't feel the need to line them up, three per day. The other way, of course, is an open marriage or the swing thing. For me, that was never appealing.
The choice does not have to be between lonliness and contention. You can have a real relationship - with all the best parts of companionship - and still get away. But it takes the right girl. Simply put, she has to be hot, nuturing, interesting, reasonable, but also accept you for the modified dog you've become.