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damn i'm 39 and know that one ,does that make me old???

If you are worried about her seeing it why don't you keep it in a safety deposit box at your bank, or a home safe.

A passport is not a document normally "lying around" in a US household. If she wants to see it and you have not been discussing your foreign travels, she suspects something already and is checking up on you. Unless the two of you go somewhere together requiring passports, there would not be any reason for her to be interested in its existence. Altering or damaging a US passport is I think a federal offense, if not would certainly screw you at any immigration checkpoint these days. If you want to play that game, lose it after you get home "in the taxi, at the airport, etc" and apply for a new one. Otherwise, make a legitimate excuse for going and stick to it, get soltero, or take her with you and introduce her to multiple partnered fun. The chances of disappearing for a week or so with someone you are involved with to this extent not knowing something is up are slim and none.

Goetz

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Sooner or later, that will come back to haunt you if you end up in a long term relationship with this woman. Eventually she will see it and they ALWAYS suspect the worst when they find something like that. Women HATE having secrets kept from them. Why put your self in that situation? Women NEVER let go of shit like that.

The last poster is exactly right. Make a good excuse, fishing trips are just about ideal and then stick to it. Spring it on her at the last possible moment before she leaves and there won't be time for extended debate. It should be easy enough to cover your tracks.

DO NOT ALTER YOUR PASSPORT. THAT IS A CRIME!

What you always want is plausible deniability. Give her enough information so that she can not directly challenge your integrity and everything will be fine.

Excellent post!

Hey Jack........ when you catch her phucking around on you... just remember not to get upset. Wait, was I suppose to say that?

Berk......

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I love it when someone dumps a load of reality in a thread. This is a question all of us married/attached guys need to think about. My wife has partied a little with the DR chicas and she is comfortable with us or me in that environment. In fact she is so cool that I sometimes find it hard to relate (anymore) with the guys whose SO's don't know about their hobby.

This inspires a new poll -

God Bless YOU! YOU ARE MY HERO!!!!!

Tell the truth...but not necessarily the details. And this travel solo freedom from my experience has to be a precedent set early on in the relationship. To SUDDENLY start taking trips by yourself away from the significant other only spells insecurity and doom to most women's mindset. Its good to have MAN hobbies like golf, fishing or "business" to take you on the solo road often. Maybe yours is retrainable...but if you go this trip...and get ruined like many do as far as "fidelity" is concerned...you may have to get a new "dog"...

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I go there for Spanish lessons. My wife buys it fine, since my Spanish is improving. My girlfriend, however, is Mexican and doesn't speak much English, and she is suspicious. Why can't you practice Spanish with me? I've also gone there for bass fishing. I don't know shit about saltwater fishing, but know a lot about bass fishing, so I can talk about it. The good thing is that no one else knows anything about bass fishing in CR because it's pretty rare. So thay can't question me. If you're interested in the bass fishing thing, I can give you a few details.

I couldn’t agree more with this statement! This is where most men mess up I feel. I have seen so many men act like Mr. Macho until he finds some woman he is in heat about which in turn he reduces himself to silly putty. Once the woman senses her strength or spell over Mr. silly putty the ground rules get laid in her favor. This is a huge mistake.

I would tell my own son you set the course by the ground rules YOU set at the beginning. Women that are crazy about you will follow you like a lost puppy. Don’t give them more control over you than necessary as you will live to regret it.

I have always believed it is super important to take the main control in any relationship after all someone has too so it might as well be you over her. You still have to maintain balance to keep them happy so I let them win at the little things. When guys start referring to the wife as MOM you only giving her more control IMHO. Some men want a mom & don’t mind the control at the beginning when things are fresh & still hot. Later in life as things cool off you find yourself needing some fresh air, needing some time to yourself to revitalize your soul. We are all creatures of habit so thinking ahead to keep them conditioned is very important.

Many divorces are precipitated from knee jerk reactions we have from feeling cornered & we suddenly “change” when all we had to do was keep the right state of conditioning in the relationship.

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What makes this so much better for the guy in this situation is that she is leaving too.

There will be no better time for setting the precedent.

The only problem is that this is all too logical. Logic rarely works with women. It is normally ALL about what they want and what is best for them

Well spoken Zippy as usual. The key, for me at least, is to keep them occupied or even on their own trip when you take yours. Then they arent spending all their time/energy wondering what you are doing, when are you going to call, etc etc. Its like another recent thread on the "Captain-First Mate" dynamic. If they feel positive about being in charge and busy while you are gone...there wont be many questions asked.

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Although it's a great idea in principle, divorce often leads to MANY problems that can't be fixed.

i.e. hurt K*ds, 1/2 your money is gone, lawyers, fights, etc...

Sometimes it's A LOT easier to have a "fishing" trip, or a "work" trip, than anything else...

This is true......must be taken into consideration as well.