My, my...by the responses from brothers here, one might conclude there are cracks in the armor. Could it be some see flashes of themselves in Hugh Baby? I certainly do. Attention from pretty girls is addicting if illusive. But the sad fact is "real love" doesn't provide steady highs, and anything man creates to provide steady highs results in flawed models. Men know there is no way to create carnal desire in women, especially as men lose youth. We try to "level the playing field" with money and gifts, rationalizing access minus genuine desire is better than the alternative; no access at all.
Throwing up shit and seeing what sticks on the wall is in our genes. Gather enough girlfriends by whatever means possible, ensures the propagation of the species. Don't blame us. The high that comes from erotic bliss is no accident. Like roaches, mankind has done well increasing the rosters. If the male isn't the self-absorbed, safada, unfaithful son-of-a-bitch, who will be? Women? Not a chance.
When I was playing more, I used to get a kick out of posting a rather "studly" photo of myself on BrazilCupid, and watch the responses roll in. Girls are desperate, but not for sex. They are desperate for a "serious" relationship. So my challenge was always to be the serious guy they were looking for. They then delighted me with hours of pleasure watching them strip on their CAM's. I also eventually met some in the flesh. One girl lived in Cuiaba and agreed to travel 36 hours by bus one-way to Rio, twice, where we phucked like rabbits. There were others closer, as well. Looking for adventure? You betcha. The very thing the girls ask about with disdain.
I used to like Hugh Baby, but in recent years I haven't kept up. Like many men, he has struggled with the virtues and satifaction of real relationships, and could never give up what was so available. He talks from an intellectual place, but is no intellectual. Yes, he contributed to positive changes in the law regarding obscenity, as well as beat down stereotypes by relaxing puritanical notions of sexuality. But sexual thrills has been Hef's central theme, no matter how he dresses it up. And women just aren't into the same brand of thrills men are.
The fact he's marrying again, trying to be faithful, etc, tells me he knows he better make a move if he doesn't want to die alone. The irony, of course, is his wife would be delighted if he kicked the bucket, and so the pathos continues. I don't think there is a lesson to be learned here. I frankly think men are hardwired to make fools of themselves. But woman are no saints, either. They just think they are....
...but that's another story
