Cujo'S wrote:
D2864 wrote:
I never will understand this. What do guys that don't live with their K*ds want from their ex, for her to manage the life of their K*ds for free?
Ch*ld support is less about clothing, food and shelter and so much more about "TIME." The TIME men have to be out doing whatever they want should come at a cost.
I hear what you're saying but I lived just 9 miles away from my K*D, not to mention there isn't so much "mommy" time once a Ch*ld gets older.. But I'm not going to spend much time defending non-custodial parents, honestly its not even a fair fight the way even if you do the right thing, the sense of being screwed looms.
I find it interesting you feel there should be a fee paid to a parent to babysit... I'm hoping this doesn't sound combative, because I truly do find that amazing. To that end, I currently pay %75 of my sons college, so did the Ch*ld support stop? Not really it seems, but I say again..at least
SHE isn't getting the checks...
Question of the day.. Who paid your parents labor for raising you?
Cujo
My parents did it together. They have been married for nearly 49 years. They were made for each other - both of them are very selfish. Although they raised us (3 of us), it was as if "they" couldn't wait until we got 18!
To me, if one parent is putting the K*D to bed, getting the K*D up everyday for school, keeping the K*D clean and in clean clothes, seeing that the K*D is doing homework, taking the K*D to school, picking up the K*D, making meals, taking the K*D to K*D activities, planning birthday parties....etc. and the other parent isn't around but every other weekend (typical), then he or she should pay for babysitting (labor). The mostly absent parent should not get all his or her free time at no cost.
There are unique situation out there, but mostly from what I've seen, men are around every other weekend. Oh and there is a stress factor too, the parent that has the K*D is likely under way more stress than the mostly absent parent so I'd tack on a stress payment too (kind of act the courts do in lawsuits when someone gets hurt).
I really have no sympathy for the mostly absent parent with regards to Ch*ld support... writing a check is way easier than being there 24/7.... it is money well spent.... K*ds are a pain in the ass really... it is one of the reasons I had none.