I think a big part of it is whether you're married, and what you have going (or don't have going) if you're single, in your community, city, and country. If you're married, that's one thing. And if single, if you have interaction with family, friends, and have employment and at least some love and sex, then the negatives of living in a third-world country, including the language issue, may be too much. Instead, regular trips may suffice, especially if you're retired or can manipulate your work schedule. But if family is distant in miles or you lack close ties, and your friends live on the other side of town (and their wives stopped liking you when you divorced their friend), or you've had it with colleagues and gringas defining your worth, then a move might be what the doctor ordered.
The hardships and irritations are real when you move. They simply don't have it together in the third-world in ways you're used to, nor do they have the same consumer products. Lines tend to be long, there is the gringo "rip" factor, and TV and movies are mostly in another language, not to mention everyday speech. Comfort is a tad more illusive in general, even in better neighborhoods, apartments and houses.
BUT....if you want to be around unspoiled, non-pro Latinas, or have easy access to superior p4p, there's simply no way to duplicate that here. I live in a community (S. Florida) that's 70% Latina, but it's not the same. Yes, it's better than Butte, Montana, but it's closer to Butte than it is to Rio.
Since I need to live in the States for some years yet, I decided to import. My brasilera, who I met a year ago, got her visa and is joining me this coming week. I'm very psyched. But I'll still make weekend trips and likely some longer stays since she has family there. She can take the bus from Rio, 7 hours into Minas Gerais to see family, while I get a room at the Arpoador. When I finally retire, I can see living 6 months here and 6 months there.
_________________ "Don't never trust a woman, till she's dead and deep....One day she'll say she loves you, next day she'll throw you on the street."
"...and if men didn't have this unquenchable desire to have sex with women, then they wouldn't have anything to do with women at all. I certainly wouldn't..."
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