Santas Bro wrote:
Several Members have written similar to:Quote:
What goes around more times than not comes around.
Steve,
I didn't read anything that way from anyone other than Berketta and what else would you expect from the white knight. The only thing that a FEW other members wrote that was at all similar and MAY have suggested they MIGHT have some agreement along those lines was that they were more or less WITHHOLDING judgment on that matter and recommending against the natural tendency in such situations to assess blame.
The unfortunate fact is that in any failed relationship there is usually enough "blame" to go around to BOTH sides, even yours. That is not to say that one side is often not much more "guilty" than the other, as seems to be the case with your ex. And that doesn't make it Karma.
If this were simply a matter of Mikey's wife cheating on him, I'd say "What's good for the goose is good for the gander". But then if that were all it was, I don't think Mikey would be so upset either. In fact, I think he might actually be relieved since by allowing his wife to deal with his infidelities by seeking one of her own more or less would give himself carte blanche to continue what he has been doing. How sustainable or healthy such an "open marriage" arrangement would be in the long run might be another matter.
Also, if her having an affair has anything to do with her having suspicions or knowing about his own indiscretions in CR, then that is not some cosmic principle such as Karma. It would be just a natural, direct and fairly predictable possible consequence of his actions. Karma suggests, to me at least, equally good or bad things happening to a person in turn on some higher level than some direct physical cause and effect. In other words, if his wife cheated on him while he himself was cheating on her AND despite her not knowing anything about his infidelities.
And even if this IS Karma, then it is Karma in Spades. Where is her becoming pregnant and wanting to bring her bastard Ch*ld into the family coming around from? Where is the Karma in that? And where is the Karma for her boyfriend who was fooling around with a married woman, knocked her up, and might be continuing to have his way with her while she takes the Ch*ld he probably didn't want anyway back to her sap husband (sorry Mikey) so he could foot all the bills and responsibilities of having it while he walks around scott-free?
I'm sorry, I don't buy the whole Karma bullshit thing. If what goes around comes around, why do so many assholes get away with murder, at least in THIS life? If anything ever does catch up with them it is either a direct and predictable cause and effect not cosmic thing (e.g. if you kill someone and leave evidence, someone is probably going to investigate that and come after you) or else pure coincidence (e.g. if you murder someone and then have something equally horrific but seemingly unrelated happen to you, like getting run over by a bus the next day) and either way is probably what they deserve. How does a loving father and husband (even a cheating one, but one who kept his extramarital affairs reasonably discreet) deserve to have to raise the Ch*ld of another man who cheated with his wife?
BTW, here is another question for our legal experts. If Mikey does stay with his wife and she has this Ch*ld, can HE go after the baby's father for Ch*ld support or can she refuse to go along with that and essentially force Mikey to absorb all the financial burdens of raising the Ch*ld as well as the parental ones?
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