Bob, this, of course, is bad and good news. The bad, she swindled that dude; the good, locals or guys that chicas know or develop a liking for, have a different scale altogether.
Since I've been spending most of my discretionary resources in Colombia and Brazil, I also have a circle of friends who treat me without the hard biz approach. But I've also met girls where even the first time I'm treated differently. Not always, certainly. Sometimes I'll offer something and get a "phuck you" look, but those girls are better seregated out anyway.
I met one garota on Copa beach who was delicious looking, but at that moment in time I was satiated. Perhaps it was my not looking so hungry, but whatever it was, this girl who gets R250 and up at Help settled for R50. At first she said I was crazy, and that was fine with me, but she kept hanging around, looking my way, etc, until I decided to move closer to her on the beach, and we talked for a while. The sun was going down, we walked off the beach and I had already forgotten the offer part of the situation, when she said she wanted to come with me. And then I saw her two more times, same arrangement, during the next couple of days.
There is no science to this. It's art and sport, but not science. If you've just "gotta" have a particular girl, OK, you're willing to forgo negotiation. Hopefully, though, that's a minority of your transactions. Some guys have money to burn, and you're right, it's a drag. But I don't see myself "competing" with these idiots; just "distancing" myself from them with a little creativity, patience, and humanity - and luck.
_________________ "Don't never trust a woman, till she's dead and deep....One day she'll say she loves you, next day she'll throw you on the street."
"...and if men didn't have this unquenchable desire to have sex with women, then they wouldn't have anything to do with women at all. I certainly wouldn't..."
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