Wouldn't it just be easier if my judgment didn't have to be right, or the only answer. From boyhood, I was taught that if my judgment was not deemed as right, I was less powerful. A very false assumption I was taught, and bought into, at an early age about being a man.
I spent way too much of my life believing that my judgment had to be right. If it wasn't, I beat someone up with words until they either agreed, or walked away. As they walked away, often they would mumble something about a**hole, but I felt strong and powerful anyway. I now see how truly weak I really was. I have since learned that it really doesn't matter if my judgment is right, or wrong, just like the words in this post. It is not data, it is just my judgment which can change instantly, with new data. My life is sailing much smoother since my judgement no longer has to be right, or the only answer. IMHO, don't stress if other men don't agree with your judgment. There is no need to fire back at a person because one does not agree with my judgment, that does not make my judgment right. If it is actually data then it is right, by fact. If it is only judgment there is no right anyway.
If you really want to get to your perceived nemesis, kill them with kindness. This technique is not used often by men, and when it is applied, the results can be magical for both parties. In many cases, if not most, we are much more similar than we are different.
Feel free to say, or rebut, anything about me or what I have said. The next time I'm in CR (Thanksgiving), let's have a drink and laugh about the crazy old fool that I am.
_________________ It's not the size of the wand that put the rabbit in the hat, it's the magic in it!!!
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