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Im hooked this is like watching the soaps when I was in college living in the dorm. Even started scheduling my classes around the ones I wanted to see. Gotta ask how did poker nite go

Sammyboy

Monger in Training

Hey Brandda,

I hate to sound callous; however, this is the CRT Site, not a domestic counseling session on problems with your gringa wife. Most members on this Site have been married to gringas at least one or two times, and I know of some that have more than two. I could be more direct in my comments about your concerns with your domestic relationship; however, I really don't give a phuck.

Dude, take it to a counselor if you are really that concerned, or split. I know that you are concerned about your sons. I raised a seven year old girl by myself by getting custody during my first divorce, and it could happen for you too.

Denver

I think coming to Costa Rica for a fishing trip might be good for him.

Who knows? Sometimes being with someone else can reinforce and help you to remember how important your primary relationship is.

Yo Denver:

I could not disagree with you more that Branda's wife problems and his upcoming trip are not relevant to this site.

Most of us would agree that a mongering trip to CR will likely have a major effect on his future perspective on life. He is 38 which is probably a bit younger than the average CRT guy on this site and he can learn a lot from guys that have had prior experience.

Admin .... please correct me if I am wrong, but, this site is dedicated to guys sharing their experiences in Costa Rica and providing valuable information.

Branda, I am happy that your wife is starting to take care of your needs.

I think a topic like this is a relevant one...
there are a limited amount of topics here, based on the hobby,
so why not? Beyond hobbying, we still have real lives, real issues...
I think it's relevant because there are a lot of guys here going through it, gone through it and can help, etc.
I have seen here a brotherhood that helps each other, and this thread is in keeping with that idea. Furthermore, except for the one detractor, Denver, there have been no objections. If someone doesn't care, then just move on to the next thread, ignore, etc.
Denver, I love ya, I am from Denver too, and I understand your point.
Just thought I would make mine too.
Peace
KS

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check yourself before you wreck yourself

I read the original post and all the replys including one from my RL brother underpar and have to say that there really is not one winning formula.

What I can do and tolerate, maybe you cannot and vice versa.

I have a similar situation to Branda, but I do not think divorce is my immediate solution, maybe after the K*ds are gone, who knows. But right now I do not feel like missing my two sons lives because I am thinking about myself.

But that is just me, I do not expect anyone to agree with me, just to respect my opinion.

Oh, and by the way, going back for Trip #3 of 2005 on August 30!!! Pura Vida!!!

On the run to pick up my K*D now -- this is all very relevant because, once the Latina hook is in (after trip #4 for me) I have to be thinking very very carefully just what I am going to do in the future, and what is worth giving up.

For example, all this past week, thinking of selling the house. Frees up money, and frees me to spend more time in CR, maybe buy or rent something cheap there. Moves up the timeframe of being there possibly for retirement.

But -- I suspect -- Latinas, Ticas, present there own set of challenges for someone who wants to be near them rather than gringas. Better, but not a walk in deal with no cost to pay.

I want to know all of these things, and compare them to what I've gone through these past decades here, and my brothers here remind me of all of that, and help me think through my next step.

Yes -- Pura vida!

Quick update - Poker night went fine. She did not serve or prepare anything but that is OK as I did not really need her to. She did keep herself and the K*ds out of the way which was good.

Hard to say where we are right now. She had to work a couple of 12 hour shifts at the hospital this weekend and I will be out of town all this week and then she is back in the hospital next weekend. So, we actually won't really see each other again until next Monday.

She's trying. That's good for me for right now.

Branda:

I have a question for you. Did you acknowledge her efforts?
If you did not, you need to if you expect this to last for any period of time.

Yup. She knows that I appreciate the effort but she also knows that I have some concerns about how sustainable it is.