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Scuba...interesting you should mention the mother wanting the daughter to go to the Del Rey. I picked up the same vibe from the Dominicans mother. In fact, it seems the family is pimping her out. When my Dominican friend came back to Costa Rica she was adamant that I didn't have any contact with her step mother in the Dominican. Hmm?? Why is that? "Dapanz, if my mother knows we are still together she will constantly be asking me for money. She thinks you are a rich gringo and will constantly bother me to ask you for money." Interesting. I have no reason to contact her step mother anyway. But, that's the way of life there.

dapanz1

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Scuba:

Your post has to gone a rather rountine "where is" question to a Astroglide like drama.

You seem like a pretty savy guy. I know you have been around. Why does this behavior seem strange to you?

A. You have a poor family barely eeking out an existence
B. Their most prized asset is the young women you are spending time
with.
C. Sure, mom is upset that the steady cash stream is drying up
D. Your chica is jealous because she sees you as her ticket out of
the DR and a ticket to a life without financial stress.

I can just about guarantee you that if you don't start to pony up better cash, mom will make life so miserable for this chica that she will have to dump you and head back to the DR.

This jealousy thing happens all the time to gringos in CR. In one respect it makes you feel important but the reality is it really is a manipulation to take the relationship to another level where you will be providing financial assistance.

Thanks D1 & KC,
I truly am expecting the guillotine to fall in the near future. Right now tho', it is still honeymoon time.
She does have a guy from New York that is sending her a lot of money and that is why, she says, that she doesn't need any from me. Plus, her phone rings a lot. So, I'm keeping my fingers crossed. Right from the first e-mail, I've been very adamant about NO WESTERN UNION.
King, what is strange to me is, I'm the one getting the play and someone else is footing the bill. That's a little different than what I am used to. I like it this way.

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Scube:

Shit Man, this story is getting better by the minute. In fact it is phuckin hilarious.

1. How did you find out about the sucker, I mean guy, sending her money?

2. How do you know that there are not others doing the same?

3. I am rolling over right now with laughter that she is acting jealous.

4. Don't you get a little peeved that her phone is ringing constantly?

5. When the guillitine drops, do you think she is going to try to hit you up with a big bill?

King-
1) 3 weeks ago, laying in her bed, she showed me pictures of the guy. It was obvious he could afford it and was trying to "save" her.
2) I hope there are more, but I think that there just are some regular good customers.
3) Her feelings are that what she does is BUSINESS. I would feel stupid saying what she feels for me is love, even though most days she calls me at least once to tell me "Te amo, te amo, te amo".
OBTW, I'm not laughing. To me, this is a hot, passionate affair. As passionate as any junior high school romance could be.
4) Last week, the phone was left in Alajuela or was turned off 90% of the time except as needed.
5) Anything is possible. I've expressed to her quite clearly that "Te amo" with dinero, is a lot different than "Te amo" without dinero. I put myself in a position that the more I give her, the less she loves me. I've offered to take her shopping and several times she said NO. I've offered to buy her k*ds clothes, NO. I did pay her cell bill and when we took her k*d to the hospital, I paid the bill. No biggie. How could I not?

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Scube:

You R D Man Dude:

Getting other suckers to finance your pu*sy.....
Way to go.

Keep us posted on how this progresses.

CHULO ALERT! CHULO ALERT!...Ask her to start paying YOUR bills, dude...tell her your trips to see her are expensive...the LEAST she can do is cover your expenses while you're there! She'll love you for it, and the more Mama hates you, the greater fascination the chica will have with you! Big Pimpin'...in a gentlemanly way, of course!...You go, guy!

CCP

Interesting thread. I have a few questions and comments.

Why hasn't the guy "saved" her yet? I'd be interested to find out. My personal reasoning was that I never felt an ability to trust. Wonder what his reason(s) are.

What they do is ALL business. Even I have come to realize it's all business. What is she going to do with this guy in NY? What is she going to do with you? I'm ever closer to believing that in the game of hooker love the "love" goes to the highest bidder and if you ain't it, then you ain't it. If you feel like developing a "relationship" then her getting money from other guys isn't fair to him OR you. Sounds like contradictory logic but give it some thought.

The phone being turned off could be a good thing or bad. Maybe she doesn't want to have to answer the phone and lie to you and the gringo that is calling. I've heard some really crazy stories when I've asked why the phone was off. So, what kind of story is she going to tell Mr. NYC next time he calls? What story will she tell you next time the phone is off?

Eventually, the hammer will drop when momma starts demanding more money. Remember family is first and everything else is a very, very distance second.

dapanz1

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Not necessarily so...If Mama is too aggressive in her manipulation of chica, chica will rebel and side with the "Chulo" (YOU)...If "Chulo" caves and coughs up the dough, chica may see this as a weakness and lose respect for him (how's THAT for a fuc*ked-up cultural ethic?)...either way, SOMEONE is gonna get played...might as well let it be one of them (or all three of them...Mama, chica and "N.Y. Sucker")...NOT YOU! Let "N.Y. Sucker" pay her cell phone bill: Next time she has to take one of her offspring to the hospital, tell her you're going off to have a few drinks and to meet you at the bar when she's done (and offer to let her pick up the tab when she arrives).

I'd pointedly IGNORE Mama from now on (she just doesn't want to loose her "pimp status" with chica to YOU!): Act like she's INVISIBLE: She's stuck with the "nietos" whether she likes it or not (it's a cultural thing)...and tell chica you need some things and ask her to take YOU shopping or to cook or to bring you something to eat, etc. If you can manage to do it right in front of Mama, so much the better! The point being that if you don't boss her around a bit, soon she'll be bossing you (and nevermind about saying "por favor" or "gracias").

Please don't delude yourself into thinking that you are "Mr. Right"...You are just "Mr. Right Now" (sorry).

It's the same old saw about not being able to "turn a ho' into a housewife": You may be able to "take the monkey out of the jungle, but you'll never take the jungle out of the monkey"....I'm sure you get the point.

Strange (and sad), but true, amigo.

CCP

D1- It is a crazy situation for me. this other guy being what it is...........she has been on the phone with him with me there.....nothing like when I am on the phone with her...muy frio with him. muy calor con mi. Yo es muy feliz. If you know me or my baby, I welcome your comments. if you do not know me or my baby, please do not get involved. Guys like Psychman, Dapanz1, Sandanista,King Costa,RearWindow, have been there and I welcome their opinion. If they tell me I'm phuckin' up, I'll listen.
But please, no advice from the amateurs. If you are not at the minimum, a VIP, please restain from giving me advice. No malice is intended. I would just like a little respect where I think it is due.
Alcohol is definately participating in this thread. It is Friday night!
Scuba

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My man..All I can say is enjoy the ride..Of course, it will end, and there will be drama..such is the nature of the beast..as far as how, when, or why, I could and would not posibliy guess..you head seems to be in the right place to me, from reading the posts. I just wish I was down partyihng with you guys...i keep getting i love you notes from auntie, almost daily...niece and aunt are similar in some ways..I think they are both very honest emotionally- yes, they are doing this for money, but I dont think are dishonest emotionally..I know this statment might get some strong comments from some of the guys..note, I do not think the girls are in love with us, just that they are true to their feelings, even if they exadure their nature..but, that is in part the Latina way..passion and compassion become mixed...kindness and sex can feel like love to the..bla bla..the bottom line- ride the way, and keep you head where it is now....be open and honest with da brothers, so we can tell ya when to pull your head out of your ass (should it land there)..I think your droing great....

Psychman

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So has it been written...so let it be done.

Wise Advice is but the daughter of Experience; Although, of the two, Experience is always the best teacher: But her lessons can be very long, painful, and expensive (way more than thirty nine bucks).

No offense taken or meant.

Buena Suerte, amigo (you'll need it).

CCP

1 .I HAVE been there, in 1998 and I'm still really wary, Whatever happens DON'T do her bareback !!! DNA tests are expensive even in Costa Rica.
2. You may think that her living conditions are worse than in Nicaragua, but the floor is concrete, not dirt, and the walls are real boards, not cardboard!
3. Just hope the sucker in N.Y. doesn't read about this on the board.

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