I know D2864 is a “good guy†with good character IMHO. I feel he just wanted to make some of us think about things a little.
To be honest I do have a daughter & guess what I want her to be well educated & very independent but in a polite constructive way. But #1 above all things I just want her to be happy & love herself for what ever she chooses to do. I do not want her to be on a power trip or a control freak with her abilities. My guess is she will probably make more than her man but she will be wise to be proud but humble about it.
She has NO bitch tendencies at all that I have ever seen. I just want her strong enough to never feel she has to put up with any abuse from anyone yet I would like for her to keep those loving affection qualities she shows of the Latinas. It is up to her but I try to plant good ideas in her head & hope she understands the depth so she can better her life.
We are flawed creatures to say the least (some worse than others) so I try to show her the flaws in men letting her know how our hormones pull at us. I hope she grasps that humans are fickle about some areas but it doesn’t mean IMHO they are necessarily bad. Being overly judgmental, non understanding & closed minded are traits that I feel will limit what you get out of life & can replace ones happiness & well being with frustrations. Nothing is perfect so don’t try to force this issue is wiser IMHO.
Jazz makes many good points about the differences in Latinas & Gringas. I have many years in both cultures & can say from my experience the up bringing is very different. Many Gringas IMHO are breed to compete, fight & frolic with just about everything. So many parents do not seem to nurture gringas on common sense about loving, caring & respecting people that they want in their life.
I had lengthy relationships with several college educated profressional Gringas that really knocked down the bucks which was nice. It made me realize they were with me for me & not my money. What made these relationships fell IMHO was the fact that everything turned into competition instead of laid back loving & affection. They kept asking when are we going to get married
?? It wore me out overtime. The world maybe a competitive battlefield but that is where it should end. I did not need this in my home.
Their earning power was great but I didn't need this as much as I needed my happiness.
The Latinas I have had long term relations with also had college degrees but come close...pssssssssst…..they know more than the Gringas about not only how to be with a man keeping him happy but also how to have that man cater to her in the best form known to man. That is of his free will of loving her so much. What goes around comes around is especially true with very involved relationships. It is easy to love & give when someone is doing like wise. Generally IMHO Latinas lead the way in common loving sense about life & how to love & raise their Ch*ldren.
Imagine having to compete trying to raise Ch*ldren instead of working logically together with attending to all the TLC the Ch*ldren need.
Yes I want my daughter to have it all & she is well on her way. But most of all I want her to be secure & happy within herself which I believe will help her in truly loving her man …..most gringas I know do not seem to understand this.
I could go on & on about the competitive self serving vs. loving differences. One I saw repeatedly with both well educated groups was....take a Gringa into a nice store & 95% or more took off to only concentrate on "her stuff" but 90% of the time I took a Latina (that was not raised in the USA) she went looking for items for her family first & foremost
!!! Is this type of behavior strength vs. weakness? I guess I will enjoy being happier with weakness the rest of my life... I rest my case
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