www.CostaRicaTicas.com

Not at all, they all know how to say "one honnred dollar"

Seriously, language is not a big issue. It helps to be able to talk to them, it makes it easier to negotiate and such, but they all know the language of love.

But if want to spend an extended period with a chica you need to speak more than 3 words.

BTW, many of the girls speak English very well. And most of them understand enough. The others pretend that they don't.

The consensus seems to be that everyone who's addicted to latinas and who travels out of the U.S. had a "life" before the "dawning" of NIRVANA! Ha! Who are you kidding? Oh sure, there were the intermittent moments of indulgence as well as moments in those marriages, but can anyone honestly say it's ever really been satisfying here, going back to high school days? Please! Going to clubs, walking down the street, even mixing it up at work with a cutie; has any of it really floated your boat in the manner of Central and South America?

I think most of us (myself included) delude ourselves. The stark truth is that good-looking gringas, including transplants, don't give and never gave a flying phuck about your "needs." Oh sure, you'll hit gold on occasion, but especially as you age, those occasions will grow further apart.

Dating in the U.S. after CR? P4p in the U.S. after Rio? Marriage in the U.S. after Colombia? It's the same as it was before you knew of those locations. If you're more sensitive to the folly of it all, it only means you had your head up your ass, wasting valuable time chasing shit that doesn't exist here. You're way better off now. You might even do better when you are in States because you don't take shit like you used to, and we all how gringas like to be treated with indifference. Be glad you "caught on" before it's too phucking late.

Now, where's that aa.com site?

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"Don't never trust a woman, till she's dead and deep....One day she'll say she loves you, next day she'll throw you on the street."

"...and if men didn't have this unquenchable desire to have sex with women, then they wouldn't have anything to do with women at all. I certainly wouldn't..."

Holy shit Jazz, that has to be the most: BAM! slap in the face like a ton of bricks, hard dose of reality post I've read in years, (for me anyway). I may print it out and carry it in my wallet for a reminder next time I think about taking some gringa out for an 80.00 dinner. groan...
Can't wait to return to fantasy-land next week, it's much better than reality here.

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MwUtj_YnNoY

One thing to consider is that upon your return to the States, you will no longer be as motivated to chase gringas. These gringas will perceive your lack of interest as cool and a challenge.

You won't need N. American poontang anymore. Your "I could give a damn if I bang you or not" attitude will draw gringas to you like bees to honey.

It's liberating. Now when I walk into a club or bar to relax, play/hear some music, whatever...I no longer worry about whether or not I'll get laid. C.R. is the remedy, and my newfound cool has apparently been magnetic to women in whom I am no longer interested.
Joe_Shsu, you're phucked if you go to Costa Rica. You will start treating U.S. women as the friends, equals and sisters they all seem to want to be nowadays.

Better start learning Spanish. This is going to be a lifetime thing.

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exactly as I feared my pandoras box is close to being opened. How did I find this site?? That is the question I will be asking myself 40 years from now!!!!!

Hey Joe, interesting that you used the term "pandoras box" as it's been used many times here to describe this affliction. We joke about it but it really should be taken seriously at times, especially when thinking of bringing someone else into the "box" and the ramifications that will most likely affect their lives. That's why I tell NONE of my friends about what I do in my travels or even think about inviting them along after watching one poor man's life ruined. I learned the hard way that not everyone is equipped mentally & emotionally to handle this hobby. Here's a couple more threads on the topic-
https://costaricaticas.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=8860
https://costaricaticas.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=3470

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MwUtj_YnNoY

If the U.S. government allowed latinas into the country the way other European countries do, that would change the whole complexion here. It seems so many latinas I've met have made at least one trip to Italy, or England, or other locales, but few have a visa for the States. One beautiful girl I met in Rio is in New York as I write this. Her rich suitor had his attorney do all the paperwork and she got the visa. I asked her if she planned to fly to Miami for a few days to see her "girlfriend." She said yes, but it now appears no. I counted on her changing her mind, however, knowing these girls as I do.

El Ciego - As far as feeling more relaxed when walking into clubs, that is very true. But how much access one has to latinas factors in. If you can only make a trip or two per year, it's rough. A long weekend every month or two, plus a couple longer trips seems to be the minimum required to get the kind of relaxed "effect" you speak of. Also, if you live in an area with lots of girls, it may adversely affect your "calm." South Beach on the weekends, especially now with the Sony-Erickson tourney and the music conference, is crawling with girls. Last night I saw some ridiculously sexy girls on Washington Ave, but of course they were in groups of three's and four's, talking to bad-boy, rap star wannabe's. It doesn't matter if these guys are losers in the long haul; they're 20-somethin' and have all the game required to bag these simple but smokin' sluts.

It's truly amazing how clueless many gringas and even latin transplants are about Central and South America. When I share the real info with them, they're shocked. One girl said in an email the day after she was with me, that she "didn't approve" of my behavior. They try to "shoot holes" through the assertion that foreign girls are somehow different. One 29-hottie from New York (born in Central America) told me she didn't "sell" herself and that girls down there only do it because they have to. I said maybe, but that she was 29, never married, and had no boyfriend. What was wrong with this picture? Girls here have puritanical crap driven deep into their brains and it's a big part of the problem. Even if they put out, it's rarely with the kind of abandon as their latin sisters to the south do, at least in the initial encounters.

I don't mind telling gringas of the literally thousands of men nation-wide who have dropped out of the U.S. dating scene. More than once I've heard women say all the good guys are married, but we know that's not true. Little "bells" seem to go off in the heads of gringas as I share this info with them. They look for reasons other than the possibility that they are at least partly to blame, with their ultra-finicky sexual behavior. I tell them, nope, that's a big deal to men. So the fact that we have found an answer to this dilemma, after so many years of accepting their version of normalcy, bothers them. When they come at me with the "desperate girls" thing - implying it's the only possible reason for them phucking me - or how these guys (me) must be losers, I again say, "Nope." I explain that while latinas have less, they usually act far less "desperate" and are less greedy than gringas. I tell them most of the guys I've met over the years are nice guys, often successful, and sometimes very handsome. At that point, it's been my experience the girls want to change the subject.

So while the girls here are chasing image, money, and trying to find the fantasy they hear in music lyrics, they often are bitchy, unsatisfied, and complain the guys they're attracted to are assholes, or only want sex. Latinas, on the other hand, seem much more accepting of men, life, and what they have. It translates to more sex, better sex, and frankly, better company all around. And that's with working and non-working girls.

Does it bother me to see hot girls here strutting their stuff with no intention of phucking me? Yes. But my answer years ago was to "fall in love" and marry, or pay through the nose. What lame responses. It never ceases to amaze me the hoops guys will jump through to be with a hot girl, and the more we act that way the more hoops they insist we jump through. Makes you wonder who really has the power.

It's no wonder when I get on this topic with girls here, they become agitated. I'm to the point where I stop calling them, and they usually call me sometime later, after I've forgotten them. They usually want something - like money - but I can see it's also to show me something; like how they compare favorably to the girls they know I see down south. I tell them I need to save money for my next trip.

And how I wish I didn't have to...

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"Don't never trust a woman, till she's dead and deep....One day she'll say she loves you, next day she'll throw you on the street."

"...and if men didn't have this unquenchable desire to have sex with women, then they wouldn't have anything to do with women at all. I certainly wouldn't..."

My situation is different for several reasons.

First, I essentially live in a basement in a small Minnesota town. I have very little contact with women, hot or otherwise. I'm pushing fifty, am blind and overweight. Never anyone's macho archetype, my lifetime experience with women is somewhat limited (perhaps 50 partners, split 50/50 pro/am).

So, my (typically 2 week) annual trips to C.R. are often enough to put the rooster back into my walk, the cut back in my strut,the glide back in my stride. And it's funny to witness.

A local 35-something, great body, cute and a woman who has been c*ck-teasing me for 10 years has suddenly discovered that I am immune to her manipulation and teasing. To loosely quote Steely Dan, she knows that if torture is the main attraction, I don't need that kind of action. She's sad now, because she knows that she overplayed her hand. I love it!

I do get your point however. If I lived in South Beach and could see, the panocha parade would prompt me to make more frequent trips to the land of real women who still enjoy sex.

Isn't it great to be able to tell the hot ones that they're not necessarily your be-all-end-all?

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Always love to read Jazz's musings on this topic. Yeap, there's a difference all right, and it's amazing how it translates into your self-image. When in Latin America, if not a rock star, I feel like a reasonably good looking guy able to at least get noticed by most girls I come across either at the venues or in public. In the U.S., when not completely invisible, I feel like a potential serial rapist, axe-murdering relative of Freddy Krueger, of whom most girls I find physically attractive probably wouldn't think I'm a suitable match for their grandmothers. Okay, that's a bit of an exaggeration, but you get my drift.

Something else that drives me crazy is that maddening gringa self-consciousness about their bodies. It's like a little game of hide-and-seek going on all the time. Here in LA, lots of girls where I work wear some pretty revealing clothes on warm days, but immediately cover-up as soon as they even suspect you of trying to catch a little glimpse of some skin. I always want to ask them "Geez, what's the big phucking deal - and why did you dress like in the first place if you were worried about showing anything?"

Being self-conscious of their bodies is the last thing I would ever accuse a Latina of, even the ones that have pretty good reason to be...

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JM,EC & GR

Gentlemen,

Could not agree with your comments more ! I find it very funny when I think back to the times following my 2nd divorce the measures I would go to so that I would be able to spend some time with an attractive gringa here.

The male/female relationship here in North America so often leads to the male slowly surendering his manhood little by little. He no longer is the key decision maker in the family, masculinity is lost and often he is browbeaten by his wife/girlfriend ( often in public ).

So many men fall victim to this in the states (myself included).I started reclaiming my testicles 5 years ago after my second divorce and last year when the " Pandora's Box " of CR opened up for me things became all the better.

When I make a occassional outing here with my friends I can see the aggravation in the womens' eyes that I am somehow now more immune to the games that they play.

EC, I have only one thing to say about your " 2 week annual CR visit " .
You are a big guy start donating plasma or something. I would go nuts if I
could not make a trip every couple of months or so.

Rainman3
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" the only gambling I do in the gulch is when I go down south "

They won't let me donate plasma because I'm blind (true, I can't match the numbers on the bags with the numbers on the tubing). Money ain't really the issue. It's time and the slow process of begging Mrs. Ciego to let me take my balls with me and leave the country without her. Actually, I have enough F.F. miles to do another free flight, and I'm booked into the SL for Labor Day weekend...but I may go nuts, make the calls and come down to C.R. earlier. It is tough only doing the travel to Paradise once a year. And even though I can only get a fix annually, I'm still a stone addict.

"Hello, My name is Ciego and I'm a ticaholic."
<group> "Hello Ciego..." Let the 12 steps begin.

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